When Self-Improvement Becomes Self-Abandonment

Shawn Hesmatpour

Published on: 26/06/2025

A couple of years ago, I got lost in the personal development world. Not because it was all bullshit… But because I gave my power away to people who sounded more sure than me. I was consuming everything like it was gospel..

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I Don’t Abandon Myself to Keep the Peace Anymore

Shawn Hesmatpour

Published on: 29/05/2025

Let’s talk about that one friend. You know the one. They get weird when you’re not available. Suddenly, you’re “acting different,” or “not showing up like you used to.” And now you’re in a silent emotional courtroom defending yourself against...

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